In problem solving we follow the guidelines of the Systemic Constructivist Model and Solution Focused Brief Therapy which involves:
Why, when, what for and how to change?
When we talk about change, we mean changing some habits that prevent us from being what we are and what we dream of becoming. Although it may seem contradictory, we first need to accept ourselves, to love ourselves and to feel loved as we are, admitting the temporality of some of our actions and ways of being.
The fact that we have spent ninety percent of our lives with the same irremediable limitations does not imply that one day things cannot be different. Normally, changes require a great deal of effort, but you can always look for the most affordable ones until you learn how, and apply it to all the situations you consider appropriate.
Sometimes, before the effort of change, there is a dreamt design, where do we want to get to? For that we only need a slight abstraction of reality in which we can miraculously visualise, without effort, that which makes us feel happy. Then, by anchoring some of the sensations, feelings, relationships of our daily life with that utopia, by starting to behave as if the dream had been achieved, we will have taken the first concrete steps.