The fact that we have spent ninety percent of our lives with the same irremediable limitations does not imply that one day things cannot be different. Normally, changes require a great deal of effort, but you can always look for the most affordable ones until you learn how, and apply it to all the situations you consider appropriate.
Sometimes, before the effort of change, there is a dreamt design, where do we want to get to? For that we only need a slight abstraction of reality in which we can miraculously visualise, without effort, that which makes us feel happy. Then, by anchoring some of the sensations, feelings, relationships of our daily life with that utopia, by starting to behave as if the dream had been achieved, we will have taken the first concrete steps.